Wrestling at the Break of Dawn: Jacob's Blessing in Vayishlach

David Ben-Ami

Boker tov, good morning, and welcome. I'm David Ben Ami. Boker tov means a good morning, and I hope yours is gentle so far. If you're listening in the dark, or just after waking from a night that wasn't restful, this one is for you.

David Ben-Ami

Some time ago we spoke about Jacob's ladder, and how he met the Divine in a place he didn't expect, a rocky field where he simply lay down to sleep. This week's Torah portion, Vayishlach, brings us to a very different night. Jacob is coming home after twenty years away. His brother Esau is on the road ahead of him, and the last time they spoke, Esau wanted to kill him. Jacob has sent gifts. He has divided his camp. He has prayed. And then, after he moves his family and all his possessions across the river Jabbok, the Torah says something quiet and strange. Jacob was left alone.

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In Genesis, chapter 32, we read: a man wrestled with him until the break of dawn. The Hebrew is alot hashachar. Alot means rising or ascending, and hashachar is the dawn. So it's the ascent of the dawn, that thin line where the dark begins to give way. Hold on to that phrase, because everything turns on it.

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The Torah doesn't name the figure. The tradition commonly understands him as an angel. The struggle goes on all night, and neither side wins cleanly. The figure wrenches Jacob's hip, and then says, shalcheini, ki alah hashachar. Let me go, for dawn is breaking.

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Now, why would a being who has wrestled all night be in a hurry? The Talmud asks exactly this, in tractate Chullin, page 91b. And the answer is lovely. The angel says: I am an angel, and from the day I was created, my time to recite a song before God has not arrived until now. Rashi, the great medieval commentator, says the same: I must sing God's praise at the day. Dawn is the hour of heavenly song, the Hebrew word is shirah. The angel has an appointment with praise, and it can't wait.

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And Jacob, bruised, limping, exhausted, sees something in that. He answers, lo ashalechacha, ki im berachtani. I will not let you go unless you bless me. A berachah is a blessing. Not just kind words, but a gift of strength, a handing over of something real. Jacob understands that dawn is a threshold, and it will not stay open. So he holds on at the exact moment when most of us would just want it to be over.

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But notice what the figure asks before giving the blessing. He asks, what is your name? Radak, a medieval commentator, points out that the question isn't for information. The one asking knows who Jacob is, just as God asks Adam, where are you, without needing a map. So why ask?

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Rabbi Neal Loevinger suggests that the question is really: are you still Jacob, the one who deceives, or are you ready to become something more? And he adds a thought I find striking. The question itself may be the blessing. Sometimes the right question, at the right time, changes how a person sees their whole life.

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Think about what Jacob has to say. He has to answer, Yaakov. Jacob. The name comes from the word for heel, akev, and it carries the memory of grabbing at his brother's heel, of cleverness and trickery. To say his name aloud is to say, this is who I have been. Only then does the figure answer: your name will no longer be Jacob, but Yisrael, ki sarita im Elohim ve'im anashim vatukhal. For you have striven with beings divine and human, and have prevailed.

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Yisrael, Israel, is built from that word sarita, to strive or wrestle. So the name that the Jewish people carry is not Winner, and not Perfect. It means one who wrestles.

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Rabbi Avital Hochstein offers a reading I'd like to share, as one interpretation among many. She notes that the last word, vatukhal, can be read as pointing forward. You will wrestle, and you will be able. In her telling, the blessing is not that Jacob will never struggle again. It's that the struggle moves inward, and that he will be able to stay in it and survive, even grow, within it.

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And the Torah doesn't hide the cost. A few verses later, in Genesis 32:32, we read that the sun rose upon him as he passed Peniel, and he was limping on his hip. The blessing doesn't heal the limp. The sun rises on a man who is blessed and wounded at the same time. I find a great deal of comfort in that. Wholeness, here, doesn't mean we walk away unmarked. It means we carry what we've been through into the light.

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So here is a thought for your day. Many of us wake up carrying the night: worry, tiredness, an argument that isn't finished, a conversation we're dreading. The usual instinct is to rush past it, or to pretend it isn't there. Try something else this morning. Before you let the night go, pause. Take one conscious breath. Acknowledge the tension honestly, even to yourself. And ask: what blessing, what lesson, can I take from this struggle before I step into the day? You don't need a perfect answer. Jacob didn't get one. He got a question, and a new way of walking.

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Let me close with a blessing, in the spirit of the one Jacob asked for. May you have koach, strength, to meet whatever wrestles with you today. May you be honest enough to name what's true, and brave enough to hold on until you find the blessing in it. And may the morning sun rise upon you, bringing shalom, peace, and clarity. Whatever you carry, may you carry it into the light.

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Thank you for starting your morning here. Yehi boker tov. May it be a good morning. Until tomorrow.